Head vs Heart

What does it mean to be in a real relationship? How does it feel when the decisions you make that used to only effect you, now effect someone that you care deeply for? How do you make a relationship even? Where one persons needs don't outweigh the others? How much do you give up for that person? Should you have to give up something for that person? What does it become selfish and when does it become selfish and when does it become honest?

As for the first time in my life I am in a serious relationship, things about my life and the way that I am begin to come to the surface. I always believed that I was a humble and understanding person that
was easy to trust. I'm semi-attractive I'd like to say, have a nerdy and wise demeanor, can carry on a conversation to anyone about anything, and are always up for a laugh, a cry or an ear to listen too. My interests are SO vast! I love living the city life, but hope to one day be living on some land out in the countryside. I long for adventure and business in my youth, but my heart still yearns for the serenity of the country. I love sci-fi and history, enjoy art and museums, ride horses and shoot guns... I am a woman of this world who has a Masters degree, have lived in places like London, Nairobi and the ever exotic Denver, make it a plan to travel to a new place every year, whether that be a new State Park in the States or visiting a country I've never been too. I'm young, yes, but my life and its experiences are grand and wide.

I love being busy, but at the same time, I don't want every night planned out for me, how can you be spontaneous in that!?

There are so many things that go through your mind when you are realizing that your life is not fully about you anymore. How much do you give up for the one you love? How much compromise is too much? How can you tell if one sacrifices more of herself for the other? How do you keep your own identity and yet grow and become the partner that you are supposed to be? How much do you give up?